tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post607160081112837913..comments2024-03-27T07:54:13.206-04:00Comments on An Accidental Blog: ButtinskiPaulita http://www.blogger.com/profile/14237320966048538408noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-50269563219795083802010-12-23T08:29:50.432-05:002010-12-23T08:29:50.432-05:00Speaking from the perspective of a single mom, I t...Speaking from the perspective of a single mom, I think if you feel strongly enough you should have subtle "I'm not interfering, I'm just concerned" conversation with her. She may not be thinking really rationally right now but, I'm willing to bet she has some reservation... Particularly, since her children don't like him. The fact that she's only known him for a few months and she's willing to alter her children's lives sends several red flags.<br /><br />Signed-<br />PrincessAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-41679127549407509452010-12-22T19:54:40.415-05:002010-12-22T19:54:40.415-05:00Yeow. That's a rough one. I suspect that she...Yeow. That's a rough one. I suspect that she won't take it well if you speak to her, and might get defensive. I also suspect that she is being influenced by lust and/or need, so trying to get her to see things objectively might not work very well. <br /><br />The wuss in me is thinking you should just discreetly give her a link to your blog so that she can just read what you wrote. Kudos to you for wanting to intervene, and as Sheila said, you probably have nothing to lose by speaking with her.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-21014482688865224692010-12-22T07:21:49.791-05:002010-12-22T07:21:49.791-05:00Thanks for all the good advice. I feel sure if I w...Thanks for all the good advice. I feel sure if I were making a similar mistake, you guys would jump right in and tell me to straighten up. <br />I contacted a mutual friend and she is working on a plan to get this woman to take some time before making big changes. Hope it works.Paulitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02611117766982930997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-39328886576962788372010-12-22T01:51:27.970-05:002010-12-22T01:51:27.970-05:00I'm sure you are right to want to speak to her...I'm sure you are right to want to speak to her but I bet it won't do any good. Anytime I have tried to help someone with good intentions, they get mad at me. I keep my mouth shut now. I only speak up if they ask me my opinion. I guess you could tell her what her children are worried about but, as I said, I don't think it will carry any weight with her.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07041872314763651462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-37086346532814317472010-12-22T01:40:14.784-05:002010-12-22T01:40:14.784-05:00I agree with Sheila, that is a really tough situat...I agree with Sheila, that is a really tough situation. There isn't a whole lot you can do about it except for maybe talk to her, invite her for coffee and state your concerns and such and hope that she will take them into consideration. I think that its slightly going overboard to marry someone after only knowing them for 3 months. That isn't enough time to get to know the real person and know if they are someone that you plan on spending the rest of your life with and a man that will be a good father to her kids. If she is willing to give up her kids for a school year for this man she should definitely make sure that it is worth it. <br />So, I think it would be a smart decision to maybe talk about it with her, that could be exactly what she needs a wise someone to talk to and help her make the right choice!<br /><br />~MakaylaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-25423868922924213002010-12-21T17:08:16.377-05:002010-12-21T17:08:16.377-05:00Really like Sheila's response on all notes.Really like Sheila's response on all notes.Just Menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-13367811620755637682010-12-21T12:49:30.818-05:002010-12-21T12:49:30.818-05:00wow that's a tough one, why in the world would...wow that's a tough one, why in the world would she even consider marrying a man after 3 months? That's crazy, there has to be more to it. And why would he expect her to move to his home and give up so much. And why would she even consider it. That's really mind boggling. Is she just tired from carrying so much responsibility on her own that she's willing to make the sacrifices? Well on one hand it doesn't seem like you probably have much to lose from telling her everything you just wrote. You're probably not going to have a relationship with her after she gets married and moves, so you might as well go out with a bang. good luck making the right decision.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05927567452092145101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32469880.post-81955393466699354352010-12-21T12:13:39.903-05:002010-12-21T12:13:39.903-05:00can't help you there, maybe just hope he shows...can't help you there, maybe just hope he shows his true colors sooner then later.Luciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02064247260945638783noreply@blogger.com